Would you be flattered if a man told you he really fancied you and would like to have some no-strings sex but has no intention of a relationship. If you fancied him, would you go for this arrangement? Would you be able to NOT fall for him, and want more from the relationship?!
2sp, that's interesting. So, what would you say you got out of the arrangement, aside from the obvious? Was it that you had felt unloved by your previous boyfriend and it was nice to have some male attention again? Or was it simply sex, scratching an itch? ie- were you driven by emotional reasons or purely physical ones?
2sp- and was there any glimmer from you that you may get attached to him- if he had told you that he wanted more than just sex, and to make it into a relationship, would you have been okay with that? ie- could you have fallen for him if he had made the first move?
2sp- so it was the physical side of a relationship you wanted, ie not just sex but affection? I wonder if there's anyone else who has been in this situation. Most seem to say "no way"!!
I'm quite surprised at how many negative answers there are!
IF I wasn't in a relationship, IF I found the man attractive in personality and looks I might think about it - I knew someone in the 80's/ 90's that I had a fairly similar relationship with, but I wouldn't now because of OH.
So was this "friends with benefits", or have I just got loose morals?
So if a man suddenly tells you he fancies you and wants hanky panky, and for a Brucie bonus potential of a relationship, you would change your view? (assuming you fancied him and you were single).
I think there are some porky pies flying on this thread.
If it's not hurting anyone, and you are able to separate sex from love, why not? It's not like you are making a living from it, like a prostitute, it just used to happen sometimes if we found ourselves together - he was free, I was free - I still like him, but wouldn't sleep with him now because I've got someone at home who loves me, and I love him. Also, it's quite nice to be fancied, and feel that you are an attractive person. (don't worry, 2sp, I'll cover your back!)