Hi my ex of 7 years left me a month ago, he has broke up with me in the past. I feel this time he left me because he felt that he could not better himself with me in his life. It’s been a month (just over) and neither one of us has been in contact since. I am pretty sure he moved out of the city and wants nothing to do with me. He feels like the relationship was dragging on. I really miss him and would want to see him again. We had a nice clean break. Should I contact him? Should I hold out hope? Or just forget it, it’s been a long time and I doubt he even cares anymore. I just want advice thanks!
Cling to hope if it helps you get through this painful time but highly unlikely he will return for good and stay. That reason is bullpoo too, it's along the lines of 'it's not you, it's me'. A cop out for telling the truth.
How old are you, Linkedup ?.
The reason I ask is because at say the age of 23 most people aren't the same as when they were sixteen and partnerships grow apart sometimes.
Relationships can stagnate after a while, the classic seven year itch. But if he's done it before, there's probably no point in waiting for him or running after him, it'll only happen again. Time to start imagining a new life for yourself.
Yes relationships stagnate and people move on and change but " he felt that he could not better himself with me in his life" is a cruel and unnecessary thing to say IMO
Thank you so much for all the responses everyone. I am 26 years old and I know I should move on. I guess it’s hard to forget all that time spent together. I agree that final remark was heart breaking and I do deserve better.
Not a very nice thing for him to say, and yet better than him giving you no reason at all, which would just leave you clinging to false hopes. He's given you the opportunity to make a clean break.