I totally understand where your coming from sam and in my opinion after recently finding my own confidence and the ability to say no and to speak my mind, I think I would be taking a deep breath and just telling them both just exactly how you are feeling, be firm, but straight to the point, you dont have to be nasty or fall out with anyone just be honest, maybe they dont realise just how much this is upsetting you, maybe they dont realise that they are doing it??? x