squad knows zilch about me or about the people that know whom have been happily married for several decades + 100% faithful. Just because I am not cynical or dour/glass half empty in my outlook and just because I know the couples well whom have been happily married + totally faithful ( yes they have had tough times for whatever reason + had to work at their marriages yet their love has grown stronger over the years) therefore squad's response to me is very patronising indeed. So what am young- 35 soon to be 36 + so what that have only been married for less than 5 years does not mean that my marriage is not meant to last or that know /recognise true love in others when see it! Just because of statistics does not mean that every marriage is to be doomed or that one partner will be unfaithful, far from it- there is the joyous flip side that proves rejoicingly that true love exists( not a Mills & Boon love yet a real kind of soulful True Love). Am not a love sick puppy- my eyes are fully open yet am an optimist, have a Christian strong faith, am determined to make our marriage work come what may now or in future, we are the faithful kind as we only have eyes for one another and we choose to stick with one another through the tough times too as that is what love is all about( we do not believe in the fairytale image of love or marriage yet the one that is sometimes more like a survival course at times). Be quick to say sorry, to keep the past in the past- forgive and forget, be spontaneous, keep the romance alive, never go to bed angry with each other- make up before turn out the light, recognise that it takes two to tango , show appreciation to each other regularly+ to not let a day go without saying you love with another- good for starters. nix-j-c ( never let yourself become cynical please)- love sometimes hurts + our hearts can be broken yet they can be mended to + true love always exists as does hope and faith. Bea :-)