There's a topic on This Morning right now, regarding parents who allow their children to have sex under their roof. We're talking 16/17 years old.
One Mother says she puts condoms in their Christmas stockings. Bit weird.
I get that it's good to know where they are, and that they're not doing it in some dark alley somewhere, but I'm not sure I'd be 100% happy with this... although that's probably due to the way I was brought up and my own parents attitude towards this.
i got condoms for my 15 year old son and his girlfriend of the same age (they are 20 now and still together). they were upstairs in his bedroom up to lord knows what, so i made sure they were safe. as i got to know her, i also went with her to the gum clinic to get the pill prescribed (she asked me to go with her as she has not had contact with her parents for a good few years)...
No.... I'd like to think my child had the respect not to. My Ex hubby's Mum was very strict like this, as we were a young teen couple, and we respected it. I don't think I'd like it if my daughter was bringing her b/f home & taking him to bed.....
It would bother me a lot-but less if they were over 18,and were already away from home(like at Uni),and had become somewhat independent and more mature.
Not fundamentally but my kids weren't particularly mature at that age some of their friends were much more so and if they had been like that I'd not have had a problem with it.
I'd be more likely to judge on the nature of the relationship than what age they are
I have two daughters and I do think that when they are older (and above the age of consent), they will be allowed to bring boy/girlfriends home to stay overnight.
I wouldn't let them take home one night stands or someone they had only been with for a very short time. I'd like them to be more respectful of themselves as well as our home.
I would allow it. At that age, they are going to have sex anyway so it's better to treat them like adults and make sure they're using contraception. We're too silly about sex in this country - that's why we have such a high rate of teen pregnancy. In countries like Holland and Sweden where it's openly discussed, the average age of first sexual experience is older and they don't get pregnant!
I remember taking a boyfriend home when I was younger. We went up to my room to watch a film and my Dad kept on coming up to the room and opening my door! My boyfriend was a few years older and clearly thought he was staying the night. My Dad had other ideas though and drove him home. I was 17!
I've thought about this already, with my own kids.
I left home real early (I went back!) and although I didn't do it solely so I could get up to no good, there was an element of me being able to have that freedom, and that's something I would hate for my own kids to even contemplate. It's a tough one and I suppose it's about moving with the times and having a more open attitude to sex.
In my opinion it's disrespectful. Even if the parents disallow that to happen, when children want to to something not permissible they would find a way, and do it anyway.
Do we feel differently towards boys and girls then?
I'm thinking back to people I know who've had one night stands, (friends, and not me, obviously!) and it's usually the males house that you go back to.
I would never, ever, EVER have taken anyone back to my parents house. My Dad would have killed them... and me! :P
I'm with 2sp. I wouldn't facilitate one night stands in the house but always made sure the daughter was responsible; her mother had her on the pill at 15, simply as a precaution because she thought the girl was not that tough and worldly at 15.
I would hate to think of my daughters in a park with someone I don't know, maybe being coerced into doing things that they're not ready for. Much rather they felt that they could take a boy (or girl) home to meet the parents, and in time be allowed to stay overnight in a safe and warm environment.
We do hope to have an open relationship with them regarding sex, so how could we then tell them that they can't do it in their own room?
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